Condolence has been prescribed to console the deceased’s
family and lighten their pain and distress. The Messenger of Allah (s.a.w.) said:
“No believer consoles his brother at a time of distress except
that Allah (s.w.t.) will clothe him with ornaments of
honor on the Day of Requital.” [ibn Maajah]
1. Pray For The Family Of The Deceased
One should
supplicate for the family of the deceased and encourage them to have patience
and think of the reward they will receive from Allah for doing so in this time
of distress. Usaamah bin Zaid said:
“We were with the Prophet (s.a.w.) when a message was sent by one of his daughters saying that
she is calling him and that a child of hers was dying. He said to the
messenger: ‘Go back to her and say that what Allah took back (the child) was His (to begin with) and His is what
he gave, and everything with Allah is for a prescribed time. Order her to have
patience and seek reward from Allah.’ The messenger came to the Prophet (s.a.w.) and said: ‘She
has sworn an oath that you come to her.’ The Prophet (s.a.w.) stood along
with Sa’d bin ‘Ubaadah and Mu‘aadh bin Jabal. I set off with
them, and (when we arrived) he lifted up the young boy and his soul was leaving
his body [known by his shaking] like (the sound made) when (pouring water or
other things) into a empty gourd. His (the Prophet’s ()) eyes were wet, and Sa’d exclaimed:
“What is this O Messenger of Allah ()?” He replied, “This is mercy which
Allah instilled in the hearts of his slaves. Indeed the only people who Allah
shows mercy to from his slaves are those who also show mercy.” [al-Bukhari& Muslim]
2. One Should Supplicate To Allah That He Shows Mercy To The
Deceased.
Imam
Ash-Shaafi‘i liked that one say to the family of
the deceased:
“May Allah give you a great reward, grant you patience, and
forgive your deceased [relative].”
3. It Is Desirable To Prepare Food For The Family Of The
Deceased.
The Messenger of
Allah (s.a.w.) said:
“Prepare
food for the family of Ja’far, for indeed a matter has come which has
preoccupied them.” [Abu Dawood & at-Tirmidhi]
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