One of the most persistent
impediments to exogamy is religion. This is true of Islam as it is of other
religions, notwithstanding some significant differences. For example, according
to Talmudic law and the Rabbinical code intermarriage with all gentiles, including Christians,
was forbidden for the Jews. It was only in 1807 that the great Jewish Synod,
convened by Napoleon, declared marriages between Israelites and Christians
valid if contracted in accordance with the Civil Code.
Yet “such marriages
cannot be invested with the religious forms,” that is they cannot be solemnized
by the religious rites of Judaism. The Rabbinical Conference held at Brunswick,
Germany, in 1844 resolved that the intermarriage of Jews and Christians or other
monotheists is not forbidden, provided the parents are permitted by the state
to bring up their children in the Jewish faith.
But this resolution
“has been strongly criticized even by some of the most pronounced advocates of
reformed Judaism. No section of Jewish opinion favors marriage between parties
who are not of the same religion.” The Christians: - Constantine, later
emperors, and various councils - - also prohibited intermarriages with the
Jews. During the Middle Ages such marriages were universally avoided.
While St. Paul
indicated that a Christian must not marry a heathen, and Tertullian called such
an alliance fornication, “the Church, in early times, often even encouraged
marriages of this sort as a means of propagating Christianity; and it was only
when its success was beyond doubt that it actually prohibited them.”1
The case of Islam isdifferent in some fundamental respects. The general rule is that religious
homogamy takes preference as the first choice. When both parties adhere to Islam,
the probability of mutual harmony is highly assuring. But it is not an absolute
condition that mates be of the same religion. Muslims may intermarry with
non-Muslims.
Such intermarriages are
as valid and binding as “intramarriages” are. However the permission is not
unqualified. No Muslim, male or female, is permitted to marry anyone who has no
divine book or God-sent Prophet to follow. The Qur’an (2:221 cf., 60-10) stresses
the point thus:
Do not
marry idolatresses, until they believe [in God]; a believing slavegirl is
surely better than an idolatress, though you may admire her. And do not marry
idolaters, until they believe; verily a believing slave is better than an
idolater, though you may admire him.
This injunction
limits the field of non-Muslim eligibles to those who believe in God and have a
divine scripture.
Another limitation is
that no Muslim woman is permitted to marry anon-Muslim man. This is the
unanimous resolution of Muslims from the days of the Prophet till the present
time. That leaves only the possibility of religious intermarriages between
Muslim men and non-Muslim women who believe in God, follow a prophet, and have
a divine scripture.
These are notably Jewishand Christian women. Muslims almost unanimously allow such intermarriages. In
one of the few chapters revealed toward the very end of Muhammad’s life, the
Qur’an (5:5-6) says:
Today
the good things are permitted to you, and the food of those who were given the
Book (i.e., the Jews and the Christians) is permitted to you; and permitted to
them is your food. Likewise (lawful to you are) believing chaste women in
wedlock, and in wedlock chaste women of them who were given the Book before you
if you give them their due dowers and desire chastity, in wedlock and not in
license or as taking secret lovers.
Based on this
statement, the opinion of the overwhelming majority of Muslims is that
intermarriages are permitted between Muslim men and non-Muslim women if the
latter believe in God and recognize the Book that was given to them before Islam.
But some “individual”
jurists and also some Shi'is disagree wholly or in part with the majority’s
interpretation of the statement. Malik, the father of the Maliki law school, held that such intermarriages are lawful only if they involve free women, not
slave girls, because the passage of the Qur’an speaks of chaste women of the Book and freedom from slavery is a constituent of chastity; a woman who is not
free is not chaste, and if she is not chaste and not a Muslim, she is not lawful
to the Muslim.
A small minority of
early jurists rejected the idea of intermarriages completely on the basis of their
interpretation of certain statements where the Qur’an (3:118, 5:51; 12:106;
60:1) warns against the intrigues, impure beliefs, and ill feelings of the
people of the Book as well as the polytheists. The Shia Imamis also disagree
among themselves and with the rest of Muslims. Some of them view religious
intermarriages as forbidden altogether.
They argue that
disbelief in Islam is the equivalent of idolatry. Since idolatry is an absolute
impediment to marriage in Islam (Q.2: 221; 60:10), it is unlawful for a Muslim
to marry any one who is not like himself. Others, however, agree with the
majority of Muslims on the permissibility of such intermarriages. Still, other
members of this Shi‘I branch adopt an intermediate position to reconcile the
conflicting interpretations.
They allow intermarriages
if they are contracted on a temporary, mut'ah, basis and forbid them as
permanent, continued bonds. The reconciliation of these passages and opinions
is a highly technical, controversial issue which will not be discussed at this point.2
The foregoing
discussion raises certain questions that need to be considered briefly. First,
a distinction must be maintained between the permissibility and the
advisability of intermarriages with women of the Book. For, according to the
majority of Muslims, while these intermarriages are lawful in principle they
may not be always advisable for practical reasons. The distinction is important
to keep in mind because speaking against the advisability of the action may be
misconstrued as a stand against the permissibility of that action, which of course
is not necessarily the case.
Secondly, this
lawfulness is established with the understanding that the man involved assumes
the “instrumental leadership” in the family of procreation, where he is the
protector, the head of the household, the status bearer, and the party responsible
for the upbringing of the offspring in his own religious faith.
This is derived from
the Qur’anic verse (4:34) in which men are described as the Qawwamun, i.e.,
the protectors and maintainers of women and the managers of their affairs.
However, in his role as the instrumental leader, the man has no jurisdiction
over the religious beliefs of his non- Muslim wife. Nor may he interfere with
her freedom of worship and conscience. Islam, in Roberts’ words, “‘does not
demand that these . . . women, whom a Muslim takes in marriage, should adopt
[his] religion . . . , but allows them to retain their own . . 3
Thirdly, the Muslim
male is permitted to intermarry with a non-Muslim female because it may serve
as a gesture of good will toward non-Muslims, or as a practical implementation
of the principles of Islam in concrete, though apparently “adverse,” situations
of interaction.4
This probably
reflects the Muslims’ hope that, once exposed to the true principles of Islam
in a favorable encounter, a person is very likely to become appreciative of
these principles and to rectify any former misconceptions. When a non-Muslim
woman marries a Muslim, who is enjoined to honor and cherish her, respect her rights
and whole-heartedly acknowledge her religious freedom as well as her Scriptures
and prophets, it may be expected that she will somehow reciprocate.
By her increasing
knowledge of Islam and experience of daily living with such a Muslim partner,
she may adopt his faith or discover that it is not, in fact, a renunciation but
rather an enrichment of her own. Whether or not she does so, she is legally
well protected against coercion or pressure of any kind and loses none of the rights
due to her in a marriage to one of her coreligionists.5
It is conceivable,
however, that other explanations could be entertained, at least theoretically.
One might say that this permission was actually designed as an indirect form of
pressure to enlarge the following of Islam. A non-Muslim wife may find herself
isolated or helpless in a household headed by a Muslim and thus feel pressured
to give up her faith for his. Or, it can be said that such a law was a shrewd
foresight on Islam’s part, introduced in anticipation of pluralistic future societies,
or in preparation for any possible demographic imbalance.
Other notions may be
entertained, such as sexual exploitation, male superordination, humiliation of
the non- Muslims, etc. But all such suggestions hardly seem to echo even the
lowest tone, or fit in the context, of the Qur’anic passage (5:5-6) where the
provision is stated. Besides, this type of intermarriage is voluntary for both
parties, and the non-Muslim females are portrayed in the same light as their Muslim
counterparts, with equal emphasis on chastity, eligibility for and receipt of
dowers, the sanctity of wedlock, and the condemnation of license.
Finally, the
prohibition of intermarriage between a Muslim woman and a non-Muslim man has
always been maintained by the religio-legal authorities. An explanation of this
position may be attempted in the following way. It seems that such
intermarriages, if permitted, would be considered by Muslims impractical and
disadvantageous to the women involved as well as to their coreligionists.
A Muslim wife of a
hypothetical non-Muslim husband is not believed to have the same assurances of religious
freedom and personal rights as does her counterpart with a Muslim spouse. The
principle of “reciprocity” is not fully implemented; while the Muslim woman does
acknowledge and honor the religion of her hypothetical husband as an integral
part of her own faith, he does not reciprocate.
She accepts Moses,
Jesus, and all the authentic messengers of God, even as she accepts Muhammad.
She makes no discrimination between them, nor is she prejudiced against any of
them. When she hears the name of Moses or Jesus, or when reference is made to
their Scriptures, she may only respond with reverence and homage; that is an
essential aspect of her being a Muslim.
To accept Islam means
a committed affirmation of the previous divine messages and an unreserved honoring
of all the messengers of God. This is something she must do and delights in
doing as a Muslim.
But is there any
reciprocity on her mate’s part? Does he accept and honor her religion as she
does his? If he does so, then he— for most practical purposes—may be regarded
as a Muslim.
In this case, their
intermarriage may have some ground for legality. But if he does not do so, at
least four logical alternatives present themselves:
(1) the Muslim woman
may lose her “most valuable” asset, i.e., faith, and renegade; (2) she may
experience unnecessary tensions and mental conflicts from which the non-Muslim
man is not totally immune; (3) the marriage may break up; (4) both partners may
gradually grow skeptical, or simply become “liberal” and indifferent to religion
altogether. Whether any of these alternatives is acceptable or advisable from a
religious and societal point of view is an open
question.
Of course, love may
be invoked at this junction as omnipotent, capable of solving all problems,
emotional, ideological, or social. But love is perhaps one of the most abused words;
and if it were so omnipotent as is sometimes claimed, social interaction would
be much simpler and human life much less problematic.
Besides the relative
lack of security and freedom for the Muslim woman and also the lack of
reciprocity on the part of her hypothetical non-Muslim mate, there may be other
reasons for the prohibition of this type of intermarriage. It seems that since
Muslim authorities believe Islam to be the highest, most complete form of
religion, it is forbidden for the Muslim to subject his conscience to
non-Muslims and entrust them with the management of his intimate affairs.
Because the male partner
is the status bearer in the family and the instrumental
leader of the
household, he must be a Muslim if the wife is so; she may not be led to
subordinate her spiritual status.
If he is a Muslim,
the question of subordination does not usually arise, because this is a case of
expected harmony and convergence of beliefs, attitudes, and practice. It would
be degrading for her to intermarry with a man who does not reciprocate religiously
and who, according to her belief system, is
spiritually inferior.
It is true that Islam acknowledges and incorporates the essence of all the former revelations; but
Muslims believe that it has also added perfection and coverage unattained by
its predecessors. It would appear exceedingly difficult, therefore, to place
the Muslim woman in a position where she believes herself to be spiritually or
religiously superior but must accept a partner who, in his capacity as the family
head, has the authority to confer on her his own social and probably also
religious status.
This is similar in a
way to the cultural, not necessarily the statistical, norm of almost all known
societies where it is generally accepted and expected from the female to marry
above or at least on her social class level, but not below.
In an open class
system, a male may descend in marriage without risking much loss of status. The
case of the woman is different; even if she can “bargain” and exchange her high
social status for some desirable qualities of her mate of a lower social
status, faith is no object of bargaining, not according to Islam at any rate.
Muslims take their
faith to be the zenith of spiritual and moral achievements; there is no higher
level to long for or aspire to. Nor may a Muslim allow himself to retrogress.
When a Muslim man intermarries with a non-Muslim woman, he is not descending
religiously; he may even “help” his mate to “ascend” to his own religious
status if he is conscientious enough and if she so desires.
However, neither he
nor she will lose what they may cherish most, i.e., their private beliefs. On the
other hand, if a Muslim woman intermarries with a non-Muslim man who does not
wish to adopt her faith or reciprocate, she will probably have to “descend” to
his level and thus lose her most valuable private asset. In an intermarriage
situation, the Muslim woman will be the loser if there is no religious reciprocity,
convergence, or consensus. Her very faith may be at stake, her serenity
threatened, and her marriage precarious.
For these explicit
and/or implicit reasons, this type of intermarriage is forbidden. This is not
apparently the simple question, why can the Muslim woman not raise the
religious status of her mate? Religion is the most private relationship between
man and God; it cannot be imposed or conferred.' Nor is it the question of
discrimination between men and women in Islam. The rights and obligations of
both men and women are equal, though not necessarily identical in details.6
This explanation
derives from ideological, psychological, and sociological factors. Yet it is,
to a certain extent, inferential and even perhaps post factum. It infers
from the general attitude of Islam toward other religions and of Muslims toward
non-Muslims, from the intrafamily and sex differential roles, from the
principles of reciprocity and cooperation in marriage, and from the
historically established practice of female hypergamy.
It is one of the
provisions which have been upheld with a rare unanimity. That in itself may be
suggestive. The question does not seem to be that of a categorical prohibition
of interreligious marriages as such; we have seen that some Muslims,
specifically men, may intermarry with some non- Muslim women, though
with certain reservations on the advisability thereof. Nor is it apparently a
matter of an absolute prohibition of female hypagamy; we have also seen that,
according to some jurists, such is unconditionally legal and, according to
others, it is valid with the approval of guardians.
The “double standard”
notion may conceivably enter into the situation. But this would be likely only
if Muslim men’s interreligious marriages were unconditionally permissible and
advisable, or if they were demonstratively more advantageous to them and less
morally binding than unions with their coreligionists, or if male hypergamy was
defined as a privilege and female hypergamy as a disadvantage.
Since this is not the
case, the “double standard" notion is not very helpful. However, looking
into the general historical realities of Muslim society, which were not always
in complete conformity with the teachings of the religion, we may find some
further insights.
Almost invariably,
Muslim women led a secluded life behind the confines of their households. A
man’s honor was measured primarily by the extent of protection, shelter, and
continence he could secure for his womenfolk, especially on the consanguineal
side. In fact, the word harem or harim and its derivatives
denote, among other things, holiness, sacredness, man’s inviolable honor, etc.
As a result, women were
generally believed to be fragile and inexperienced in the sphere of practical
affairs. Their “instrumental roles” were almost always subordinate, at least
technically. Men provided for them, bore full responsibility for their
protection, and legislated or interpreted the existing legislations for them.
Men’s concern for
their honor and protection apparently extended beyond the maiden years as it
came to bear upon mate selection. A marital union between an inexperienced,
fragile or naive Muslim woman and an unreciprocating, inflexible non-Muslim man
must have been conceived by the law interpreters as “dangerous.”
As a rule, Muslim men
would not or believed that they should not expose their womenfolk to such a
risky relationship. They would be apprehensive of the responsibility, humiliation,
shame, and disgrace that are bound to result in case of conversion on the
women’s part. This apprehension may in part be the product of a lack of
confidence in the strength of the Muslim women’s convictions, or the non-Muslim
men’s characters, or both.
To protect their
women from exposure to uncertainty, to avoid the risk of de-gradation or
disgrace, to honor their religion by placing it outside the category of the
“exchangeables” in mate selection, and to save their “honor” from being at the
mercy of those who are not “trustworthy,”—these were probably the major reasons
for the prohibition of intermarriage between Muslim women and non-Muslim men.
Beyond the forbidden
degrees of consanguinity, affinity, milk fosterage, and religion, and so long
as the prospective mates satisfy the usual conditions of marriage,7
a family unit can be established. Social class, race, birth or color are not serious
impediments to a full-fledged, permanent union. Jurists who uphold the doctrine
of “social equality” of partners as a consideration for marriage, view it only
as a precaution that can be dispensed with under appropriate conditions of
security, a right that may easily be waived by the woman or her marriage guardian.
It is not an absolute
condition. Rather, they say, a stipulation of assurance to maximize the
probability of a stable, successful union that would contribute to the
uninterrupted.
REFERENCES
1. Patai, pp. 32, 35;
Waf! (3 ), pp. 29 ff; Westermarck (3), pp. 57-8.
2. In addition, see
‘Abd al BaqI (4), vol. 2, p. 540; Maghniyyah (2 ), pp. 32-3; Roberts, pp. 14-5;
Shaltut ( 1J), pp. 251 ff.
3. Roberts, p. 15;
cf. su p ra , pp. 33 ff.
4. Cf. Shaltut (1 ),
p. 253.
5. A thin thread of
explanation may be found in A. Ytisuf ‘Airs commentary on al Q u r 'a n (5:6),
vol. 1, p.241, n. 700. The rest is suggested independently.
6. This explanation
is guided by some broad principles and derives from certain bare facts stated
in the Qur’an. Foremost among these are the following: (a) The Muslims believe
in what is revealed to them in the Qur’an and what has been revealed to the
previous messengers of God, among whom the Muslims make no discrimination (2:136;
3:84; 43:13). (b) There should be no compulsion or coercion in religion; the
truth is clear and every one must make his own religious choice (2:256; 18:29).
(c) God accepts none other than the true religion of Islam (3:19, 85). (d) It
is lawful to intermarry with the chaste women of the People of the Book (5:5).
(e) Men are the guardians and protectors of women (4:34). If the prohibition of
intermarriage between Muslim women and non-Muslim men is to be explained in the
light of these principles and facts, in accordance with role differentiation,
the explanation will probably follow the line suggested in the text of the
discussion. The concepts “equal” and “identical” are introduced here to
differentiate sex roles. Such differentiation in Islam does not mean inequality,
even though it may preclude identicalness. The rights and obligations attached
to a woman’s role, when taken an item for an item, do not identically
correspond with those specified by a man’s role. But when allowing for the sex
role differentials, weighing the overall constituents of each role, and
adjusting the scale of the respective rights and obligations, it will become
clear that (a) the rights and obligations of any member of a given sex balance
one another in the final analysis, and (b) the role constituents of the male
“equal” those of the female’s (also in the final analysis). For example, in certain
cases of inheritance a woman’s share is one half a man’s. On the surface this
is an injustice, or inequality, but in reality it is not necessarily the case.
What is seen here is that the two specific shares are not identical, i.e., not
the same. Yet this does not necessarily mean inequality or inequity.
Considering that the woman is not denied the fruits of anything she has earned
or worked for, and that she is practically carefree (since all her basic
financial needs are met by some male in her family of orientation or
procreation), and realizing, on the other hand, the man’s position as the party
responsible for the financial needs of his immediate family and possibly
beyond, it becomes evident that the distribution of shares is based on
differential needs and responsibilities. Where the man’s obligations outweigh those
of the woman, he is compensated for that by additional allowances drawn from
such funds as the property of a deceased relative. This extra-allowance is not
based on discrimination or inequality; rather, it is in return for his
additional burdens. If we take the situation in its totality, weighing the
respective rights and obligations of both men and women, the end result would
seem to be an equal, though not identical, distribution.
7. See su p ra , pp.
50 ff.
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