“And
marry those among you who are single (i.e., a man who has no wife and a woman
who has no husband) and (also marry) the saalihoon (pious, fit and capable
ones) of your (male) slaves and maid-servants (female slaves). If they be poor,
Allaah will enrich them out of His Bounty. And Allaah is All-Sufficient for His
creatures’ needs, All-Knowing (about the state of the people).” [al-Noor
24:32].
The head of the household must select a righteous and suitable wife based on the
following conditions described in various ahaadeeth:
“A woman
may be married for four things: her wealth, her lineage, her beauty or her
religion. Choose the one who is religious, may your hands be rubbed with dust
[i.e., may you prosper]!” (Agreed upon).
“This
world is all temporary conveniences, and the greatest joy in this life is a
righteous wife.” (Reported by Muslim, 1468). “Let every one of you have a
thankful heart, a remembering tongue [remembering Allaah] and a believing wife
who will help him with regard to the Hereafter.” (Reported by Ahmad, 5/282, and
al-Tirmidhi and Ibn Maajah from Thawbaan. Saheeh al-Jaami’, 5231).
According
to another report: “A righteous wife to help you with your worldly and
religious affairs is the best treasure anyone could have.” (Reported by
al-Bayhaqi. Saheeh al-Jaami’, 4285).
“Marry
one who is loving and fertile, for I will be proud before the other Prophets of
your great numbers on the Day of Resurrection.” (Reported by Ahmad. Saheeh
al-Irwa’, 6/195).
“I advise
you to marry virgins, for their wombs are more fresh, their mouths are more
sweet and they are more content with little.” According to another report: “…
and they are less likely to deceive.” (Reported by Ibn Maajah. Al-Silsilah
al- Saheeh, 623).
Just as a
righteous wife is one of the four elements of happiness, so a bad wife is one
of the four elements of misery, as it says in the saheeh hadeeth: “One of (the
elements of) happiness is a righteous wife, who when you see her you feel
pleased, and when you are away, you feel that you can trust her with regard to
herself and your property.
And one
of (the elements of) misery is a bad wife who when you see her, you feel upset,
she keeps attacking you verbally, and when you are away, you do not feel that
you can trust her with regard to herself and your property.”
On the other hands, it is also essential to look at the situation of the prospective
husband who is proposing marriage to the Muslim woman, and to agree to his
proposal in accordance with the following conditions:
The
Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If there comes to
you one with whose religion and character you are pleased, then marry your
daughter [or sister, etc.] to him, otherwise there will be fitnah and great
corruption in the land.”
All of
the above must be achieved through asking the right questions, verifying facts,
gathering information and checking sources, so that the home will not be
corrupted or destroyed.
The
righteous man and righteous woman together will build a righteous home, because
“the vegetation of a good land comes forth (easily) by the Permission of its
Lord, and that which is bad, brings forth nothing but a little with
difficulty…” [al-A’raaf 7:58].
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