One of the common mistakes in Islam is a woman dropping her
father's name and adopting the husband's name after marriage.
It is Haraam for a woman (after marriage) to change her
surname from her father to that of her husband. For example, before marriage
she was "Fatima Mustapha Ali" and after marriage to Sajid Siddique,
she changes to "Fatima Sajid Siddique" or just "Fatima
Sajid".
This is haraam. It is not permissible for a woman to take
her husband’s name or his family name because that is attributing oneself to
someone other than one’s father, and imitating the kuffaar from whom this
custom was adopted.
There are some very stern warnings regarding this from
Allah and his Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wa sallam Read below:
The Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wa sallam said:
"Whoever calls himself by other than his father’s name (or attributes
himself to someone other than his father), will be cursed by Allah, the angels
and all the people." (Reported by Ibn Maajah, 2599)
Narrated from Abu Dharr RadiAllahuanhu that he heard the
Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wa sallam say: “Any man who knowingly attributes
himself to someone other than his father is guilty of kufr. Whoever claims to belong
to a people when he has nothing to do with them, let him take his place in
Hell.” [Bukhari 3508 and Muslim 61]
It was narrated that Sa’d ibn Abi Waqqaas and Abu Bakrah
said: The Messenger of Allaah Sallallahu Alaihi Wa sallam said: “Whoever claims
after having become Muslim to belong to someone who is not his father, knowing
that he is not his father, Paradise will be forbidden to him.” [Bukhaari 4072
and Muslim 63]
What else needs to be said in this matter when clear
commands of prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wa sallam are present? Besides this, the
Salaf-us-saliheen have also sternly warned against this.
It is not permitted for anyone to claim to belong to
anyone other than his father. Imitating the kuffaar by dropping the wife’s
surname and giving her the husband’s name is haraam; it is also a form of
falsehood, and humiliation of the woman.
There is no blood tie between the husband and wife, so
how can she take his surname as if she is part of the same lineage? Moreover,
she may get divorced, or her husband may die, and she may marry another man.
Will she keep changing her surname every time she marries
another man? Furthermore, there are rulings attached to her being named after
her father, which have to do with inheritance, spending and who is a mahram,
etc.
Taking her husband’s surname overlooks all that. The
husband is named after his own father, and what does she have to do with the
lineage of her husband’s father? This goes against common sense and true facts.
The husband has nothing that makes him better than his wife so that she should
take his surname, whilst he takes his father’s name.
If taking husband's name is allowed in Islam. Prophet
Muhammad's (who was the best human being) wives would have kept his name after
their names!
But still Aysha remained as Aysha bint Abu bukker.
Even his wives whose fathers were kuffar even they didn't
change their last name after marriage, they kept their kaafir fathers' names
behind theirs.
Eg. Saffiya bint Huyayy (Huyayy was a jew and a staunch
enemy of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi wa sallam)
Anyone who has done this must repent to Allaah and put it
right by going back to her father’s name. Please revert back to your father's
lineage or father's name!
Each one of us is accountable for our actions on the Day
of Judgement! Don't obey others to disobey Allah (even if it be your parents or
your husband).
May Allah guide us to the right path! Aameen
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